Author: Mary Elyn Bahlert

I am a spiritual seeker, a seeker who has "taken a drink from many cups." I love to accompany others on the deeper journey to witness to their True Self. Now a writer, photographer and poet, I have retired from full-time ministry as a pastor in downtown Oakland, CA.
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Magic

Mary Elyn Bahlert

Something magic comes to life during the holidays, although not in the old ways. I remember one Christmas Eve, when I was a little girl. Before I went to sleep in my bed pushed up against the cold wall on the window side of the flat, I heard, in the snowy night outside that window, sleigh bells.

Or maybe it was Mom and Dad, preparing the scene for Christmas morning, when my little sister and my big brother Ronn and I would wake to the decorated tree in the front room, the colored bulbs lit, presents scattered underneath the tree. We waited for Dad to sit, cross-legged, in front of the tree, and one by one, he brought out the gifts and called our names. Dad enjoyed Christmas morning as much as we did, relishing his role as gift-giver.

There’d been magic the night before, also, when I recited my verse in the Christmas Eve pageant at the Evangelical Lutheran Church where I attended Sunday School . Magic, as all the little children recited their verses to a darkened sanctuary lit only by candles – real candles! – across the altar and hanging high on the walls at the side aisles. Magic! After Christmas Eve worship, each child received a box of chocolate-covered cherries, and we’d drive home, me sitting smugly in the back seat of my Dad’s ‘54 Chevy.

I wait for the magic now. Each Christmas, the magic seems to grow dimmer, but I still love the lights on the tree, and I listen to classical Christmas music, hearing the same songs again and again, without tiring of them. I have a few solemn rituals I follow; each season I watch “A Child’s Christmas in Wales,” a beautiful depiction of Dylan Thomas’ remembrance of his Christmases past.

The magic lessens, with each year, it seems. Life in the Bay Area of California does not afford the cozy nights in a warm, warm house, the wind blowing cold off of Lake Michigan against the windows. Still, it is comforting to sit beside the Christmas tree – a presence of its own in the house – in the early dark evenings, the room lit only by the old-fashioned, multi-colored lights. 

And the season passes quickly, each day shorter than the next, each year flying by – where did the time go? I ask the question of myself as the generations before me must have asked the question, and those generations all gone now, a long time ago.

The cat and the Christmas tree, 12/2023  Photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert
beauty, memories, reflecting, remembering

Christmas time on the Bering Sea

Mary Elyn Bahlert

In the fall of 2015, Jeff received a note from a District Superintendent he had met while working on his books in Alaska. The message was that a little church in Unalaska, on the Bering Sea, was without a Pastor and wanted someone to be with them to celebrate Christmas. I think of myself as a “city person,” one who feels comfortable in cities, wherever they are, but I had traveled to Alaska on several occasions with Jeff, most notably to Nome, where we had had an intimate gathering with the Elders. And so, as soon as I heard the word that a church on the Bering Sea wanted a Pastor, I said: “Yes! Here I am! – Send me!”

And in the middle of December I traveled from San Francisco International Airport to Seattle, on to Anchorage, where I spent the night in a hotel before boarding a small plane with a direct flight to Unalaska. The flight that day was uneventful. I heard stories of flights that needed to be cancelled because of the winds that rise in that place. “Unalaska” is the Inuit word for “birthplace of the winds.” I listened with some anxiety to a story of a flight that had to emergency land along the slopes to the south of the flight’s path until the wind passed and the fog and snow allowed safe passage. And I watched with anxiety and awe as we landed, the cliffs close to the left side of the plane that gave way to the landing strip at Unalaska, with a cliff overshadowing the runway to the right of the plane. I disembarked and was met by the Chair of the Pastor Parish Relations Committee, who took me on a short tour of the Island, introducing me to the one large supermarket, one or two restaurants – always full – and to the church, and the parsonage, a large house whose front windows looked out over the Bering Sea.

As we drove up to the house, several eagles fluttered down from the roof as if to greet us. The church folks had set up a small, artificial tree, complete with lights, in the living room. I kept those lights on 24 hours a day during my stay. The kitchen was well equipped, the bed made, and we turned the heat up when we entered the house. All was well.

The Birthplace of the Winds, indeed. One night I was awakened by a wind, wind so wild that it sounded as if it would pick up the big, cozy house in which I slept and carry it out over the water. The wind surrounded the house, wailing and whipping, louder and louder, until at last – it passed. I was a witness to the winds, then.

I preached for two Sundays before Christmas and met with the musician – a professional piano teacher who had married a native man and lived on the Island, where she raised her family – a worship leader, and one or two other folks who were active in the church community, to plan Christmas Eve worship. We filled our plans with music, the Christmas Story, and lights. Each Sunday of my time with the people in worship, I celebrated Holy Communion, because they did not have a regular pastor to be with them.

During the week, I spent part of my days in the library on the Island, where I became friends with the native man who worked behind the desk. I checked out books and movies to watch in the evenings in the big house, alone. I woke each morning to darkness, and at ten AM, as if by some magic, the sky was light, daylight again. When I could, I called Jeff; we never allow a day to pass without our speaking, even when we are separated.

On Christmas Eve, the sanctuary was full of lights – and people, who arrived from all over the Island to hear the Christmas music, to hear the Christmas story, once again. The music was wonderful – a concert of beautiful Christmas music, led by an artist. At the close of worship, we lit one another’s candles, and sang “Silent Night” to the darkened sanctuary, reverent before we went out again into the cold and the wind.

Jeff arrived on New Year’s Eve, and we watched the fireworks fly across the sky on the Bering Sea from the front window, at midnight. On New Year’s Day, I worshipped with the small band of people in the little church, and after lunch, Jeff and I drove the car I’d been loaned – Alaskans share cars freely with one another – to the little airport, where we were able to make the flight back to Anchorage that day. Jeff’s flight to San Francisco left earlier than mine, and I had a few more hours there, taking time to let go of my sacred days in the Birthplace of the Winds.

Over the Bering Sea, December, 2015, photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert

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“Don’t be so nosy…”

Mary Elyn Bahlert

In the days and weeks before Christmas, when I’m alone and at home, often sitting in front of the Christmas tree, I remember more vividly each person who, once a part of my life, is gone now. And small moments with each one of them seem to be replayed, over and over, in my mind.

Dad liked to have fun. He loved to laugh, and he loved to hear us laugh.

Every year, in the few days right before Christmas, Dad would head out to the Capitol Court Shopping Center – in those days, an outdoor shopping center, not the Malls of later years. He had thought ahead to what he would buy Mom for Christmas, and he headed straight for the place to shop.

By December, the evenings are already dark, and undoubtedly, were cold, in Wisconsin. And the houses – cozy. I can hear now my Dad’s footsteps coming up the back stairs, bringing the cold of the evening with him, and as he turned to the second floor landing, I hear his voice: “don’t be so nosy!” His arrival and his greeting meant that he carried under his arm that important package, the package that held his gift to Mom for Christmas. I can see his eyes, also, sparkling, as he came into the kitchen, saying again: “don’t be so nosy!”

Jeff likes to repeat those words now, every year. A few days ago, I sat in his large and interesting studio in the yard behind our house, and I noticed two holiday-wrapped boxes on the shelf next to the deer’s head. I looked at Jeff. Jeff looked at me: “don’t be so nosy!” he said. And we laughed, remembering.

Nature decorated: photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert, 11/2023

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Advent, waiting

Mary Elyn Bahlert

The liturgical season of Advent begins four weeks before Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. It is always interesting to me that the scriptures for Advent mark events and people who were already present before the Birth of the Child. Advent itself is a more sombre time, as we “wait upon the Lord” to arrive as a child, a poor child, a child born in a manger, because there was no room for him and for Mary his mother and Joseph, her husband, in the inn. We’re reminded of refugees today, walking from their homes, walking to places unknown and probably unfriendly. We’re reminded of refugees today leaving the only place they know to wander, to hope – against hope – that somewhere, somewhere there will be a new life, a safe life.

I expect most folks know the Christmas story, the child, the Star, the Wise Men who traveled far to see this holy One. But Advent? We don’t care about Advent, that sombre season, that season of hope that hopes against hope. When I was a Pastor, it was clear to me that beginning in December, regular church-goers wanted to sing the Christmas Carols, to light the lights, to make Christmas cookies to share with one another. But Advent? There is no place for Advent in our lives, in our culture. We don’t want to wait to see what happens. We want what we want, now.

One Advent, Jeff and I visited together a monastery on the Pacific Coast, and there, among the monks, we heard the Advent scriptures chanted, the voices ringing out into the simple chapel, only a cross on the altar. The monks honored Advent. That was clear.

I tried as hard as I could in each parish I served, to wait until Christmas Eve to sing the Christmas carols, and to sing the Advent songs during the four weeks before Christmas. It didn’t work. I learned to be light hearted about it, as I stuck to the scriptures of Advent as my preaching texts.

In the early 1990’s, Jeff and I served for two years as co-pastors of a United Methodist congregation in Tracy, California. Beginning in December, the sanctuary was decorated with glistening stars and Christmas lights, lights hung along the walls, lights of all colors. And I found, in a little, unused room off the sanctuary, a creche, complete with animals, Mary, Joseph, a baby. And a crib for his bed, filled with straw from the manger.

And so the creche was placed carefully on the top of the piano at the front of the sanctuary. Every week, as I checked out the sanctuary for the coming Sunday, I walked past the piano with the simple creche on top. I noticed as soon as the manger scene appeared, that the baby was in the manger, center stage in the creche. And so I carefully picked up the child and placed him in the little room to the side of the sanctuary. Right inside the door, on a shelf, I placed the child. I knew I would not forget to place him in the manger right before the Christmas Eve service – right where he belonged! But not before! The scene was waiting for the arrival of the Child, as we wait for so many important things in our lives.

Early Sunday morning, the first Sunday of Advent, I walked into the sanctuary through the side door. As I entered, I was greeted with lights – the lights of many colors, like a Christmas tree – the lights on, and Christmas music – loud – coming from the speakers placed all over the sanctuary. And I was greeted by the sight of Pele and his son- our usher and his young son – sitting with smiles of joy on their faces, in the last row, nodding their heads to the beautiful Christmas music blaring over the speakers.

Seeing them made me happy to be there!

I was greeted also – by the presence of the Child, already in the Manger. We were still waiting – I thought! We were in the season of Advent, the Coming – not the arrived!!! So carefully, when I knew that Pele and his son were busy with other things, I moved the baby in the manger to the shelf in the little room to the side of the sanctuary.

I never said a word about it, but each Sunday, I found the babe again, in the manger, in the middle of the creche scene. Each Sunday, I carefully moved him out again, moved him out to arrive again on Christmas Eve. I never said a word about it, and no one else said a word, either.

A Christmas mystery. Certainly.

Our Advent calendar, 2023