Author: Mary Elyn Bahlert

I am a spiritual seeker, a seeker who has "taken a drink from many cups." I love to accompany others on the deeper journey to witness to their True Self. Now a writer, photographer and poet, I have retired from full-time ministry as a pastor in downtown Oakland, CA.
beauty, poetry, reflecting

First reading

Mary Elyn Bahlert

I’ve been a reader for many, many – many – years now, of course. And over the course of those years, I have also been a writer. I learned to write by reading the writing of others, I think. Words, and the sentences that hold words together, come easily to me. That particular gift allowed me to be a preacher, also. I loved reading and studying the scriptures, and over the years, I’d developed my own rhythm, a rhythm that formed the outline of my week for many years.

And I have written poetry since the days I watched my teachers carefully, studying their manners and idiosyncrasies carefully. I was a careful child, and I took that care to my studies. I faithfully memorized the poems of the great American poets in Miss Ross’ English class at Peckham Junior High School. Miss Ross gave me a great gift with her old-fashioned manner of teaching. I remember so little about her; she was an old-fashioned teacher who wore a navy blue, old-fashioned dress that was covered in little white dots, a dress that covered her knees, modestly. Was her name really Betsy Ross? I don’t know, although that’s the name I’ve carried with me all these years. I was sure she had her hair done at a beauty parlor every week. That’s how it looked to me, with my trained eye!

Every week, I studied a poet’s life and poems, and over the course of the semester I put together a book of my own, a three ringed folder with poems carefully written in my own hand, and pictures to visually bring the poems to life. I cut the pictures out of the pages of my mother’s women’s magazines. I wish I had those folders now. Those pages of poems were a treasure in my life.

The poems, the lives of the poets, the world that books and reading opened to me have been a priceless gift to my life.

But the poems that I have written and collected – not carefully, but faithfully – have formed the book that my beloved husband, Jeff, encouraged me to have printed. I am a published poet now! That’s an identity I find I will have to grow into. Like the day Jeff’s first published book appeared at our house, he and I sat down and looked over the small printed volume of my own poetry, Moments (Balboa Press, 2026).

And I have survived my first reading! Carefully planned and executed, I read aloud to a group of other humans selected poems from my collection. The room – the Edwards Room at Lake Merritt United Methodist Church, the church where I had retired from as Pastor in 2014 after a 16 year stint (not bad for a Methodist!). There was a gathered group of people, mostly folks I know, a few I did not know. A woman I’d helped with a family matter a few years after my retirement joined the group. The pastor, Sunae, had made sure a flyer had been included in each Sunday’s bulletin.

And so, I am a published poet, and I am a poet who has survived a public reading. I am grateful. A gathering of friends, of beloved folks from many years in my life, colleagues, former parishioners, and even a man I did not know arrived to sit for an hour of poetry reading! So many of my poems, many written on scraps of paper and filed away in a manila file – these many years – were now properly printed and presented for public view. The pastor and a few faithful helpers set out a nice table of simple food for after the reading. A friend brought her dog and generously agreed to handle the selling of the books, of my book, which I signed for the waiting admirers.

And so I expect that a small part of me will have to take on a new – another – identity: published poet. I’m proud that a photo of mine graces the cover. I was delighted to see who showed up to hear me read, some folks I had forgotten would be interested at all.

Now, that day is in the past. I’ve had my collection of poems published – I’m a published poet now – and I’ve had a reading. I’m out there.

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Hello’s in the ‘hood

Mary Elyn Bahlert

As a child, my family moved from rented upper flat to rented upper flat on the North Side of Milwaukee, every few years. We always lived in the upstairs flat. Because Milwaukee has cold, cold winters, each house had a full basement, usually divided in half, half reserved for the lower flat, and half reserved for the upper flat, each also boasting a coal furnace. Every winter morning, Daddy filled the furnace that heated our flat with coal, and stoked the flames as soon as he dressed, after the alarm which rang promptly at 6 AM, early enough for Mom to make his breakfast of bacon and eggs – every morning. I lay in bed until 7, when my little sister, Suzie, and I started our days at the kitchen table with a bowl of cold cereal. Then we walked the few blocks to school.

As a child, I knew the children in the neighborhood, those other children from working class families who walked the streets to school with me, who became my first playmates when the evenings were long, on the weekends, and during the hot, humid summers. I walked to school with those children, some who came from homes where another language was spoken at the table. Although Mom’s first language was Ukrainian, we all spoke English. Mom, Daddy, Ronn, me and Suzie.

What I don’t remember about the neighborhood is whether or not the neighbors were friendly. I don’t remember most of their names. Except for the children who lived within a block of our flat, my playmates in the summer time lived in the modest flats and modest single family homes that lined the streets for as far as I could see or could walk. My world grew a little when I became friends with Judy Hauser, whose family lived about a mile away, a house that her parents owned, and where her grandmother – who never spoke a word in my hearing – lived in the small upstairs of the bungalow, coming down to sit at the table with the family for lunch. Some Saturdays, I’d ride to Judy’s house to spend the day, or her dad would drop her at our house to spend the day with me. That’s how my world grew, inch by inch, block by block, school by school, buddy by buddy.

What I don’t remember about the neighborhood was whether or not we spoke to the neighbors we did not know, who walked those streets, who sat on the porches in the warm, humid evenings of the precious summers. I don’t remember if we even knew the names of all the neighbors. Of course we knew the names of the families on the next street whose kids were my playmates. It was Michelle Fralick who asked me one day as we walked to school: “are you Catholic?” I don’t know what I said to Michelle in answer to her question, but I know I asked Mom if I was Catholic when I got home from school that day. “No,” she said.

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I suppose it’s because of those old Milwaukee neighborhoods that I love cities. The places I lived were modest places, and when I have the time to see them again, I take a look. I see the narrow streets. I see the streets, now more modest than they were then, some of the windows of those flats boarded up, some of the steps to the front porch broken, some of the strips of land that had been lawns now barren, brown, uncared for. Milwaukee is one of the cities who has suffered greatly from the racism that plagues the nation, that plagues the world. Milwaukee is a broken place in many ways, although it will always be my home.

“Feels like home to me…” (Randy Newman, “Feels Like Home”)

What I don’t remember is whether or not we greeted our neighbors. The cities I’ve lived in have changed – mightily – since those days of growing up. I love cities, love the city where I live now, and have lived for many years, and I love the cities of other places, of other lands, I’ve been privileged to see. This past spring, Jeff and I traveled to Japan for a trip with Overseas Adventure Travel. On the first morning after our arrival, as the group gathered to get a feel for our few days in Tokyo, I spent the morning alone, walking on the city streets. I was comfortable. I was happy. I enjoyed my time alone, to explore on foot the strange and wonderful new land I was privileged to visit.

But did we look at one another as we passed each other on the narrow sidewalks of Milwaukee in the 1950’s and 1960’s? Did we say hello to one another? Did we greet one another warmly, as neighbors? I don’t remember.

And so it is a small and wonderful joy to me when I walk in my neighborhood in Oakland now, and when someone looks at me – really looks at me – and when we say a few kind words to one another. One day, as I walked one of my well-worn routes to make sure I add to my tally of daily steps, I passed a short, gray haired old woman – she must have been my age, that is – and as I passed, she said a few words. More than a few words. She started a conversation. She told me she was new to the neighborhood, and since we passed one another on a street a few blocks from where Jeff and I lived, I don’t know where she lives. But I’ve looked for her ever since the day we passed one another, when I walk along that block. I think of her. I hope to see her again.

It’s good to see the same folks on my street, day after day. It’s good to hear voices sometimes, to see a dog out for a friendly walk on our street – on leash (of course). I know the names of some of the people I pass. And I often don’t know the name of someone I pass. Yesterday, as I walked up the last hill to my house along Pleasant Valley Avenue, the busy street that runs parallel to my own street, a young woman who I’ve seen once or twice came up to the curb to cross the Avenue. She turned to smile at me.

I’m old now. To her, I’m just another old woman. But maybe that’s why she smiled. I’m harmless, after all – I’m old now.

I hope to see her again. I’ll make sure to smile, to say hello. I hope we can make our own place just a little friendlier when we do.

A fall sunset over our street. Photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert, 9/2026

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what comes to mind

Mary Elyn Bahlert

I walked under the railroad tracks at Fond du Lac Avenue and Burleigh Street on the North Side of Milwaukee from those neighborhoods of frame flats, home to two families, up and down, and into another world. I didn’t know it then, but the world I was walking in to when I came out from under the viaduct at 35th Street – across from Master Lock Company – would become my world. My world is different from the world I left in those rented houses. My world is different in so many ways.

I was introduced to other students, students who actually lived on the other side of the tracks, when I walked under those tracks. I was a student at Peckham Junior High School, and so were they, those other students. Many of them would become my friends. At least one teacher made the mistake of thinking I was one of those students, but I was always painfully aware that I was from the other side of the tracks. I never forgot that. I noticed the clothes my classmates wore. I knew that many of them came from families where at least Dad – and sometimes Mom, too – were educated beyond high school. Some of my classmates were the children of professional people. Maybe I felt shame among those students; I saw the differences between them and me, with raw clarity.

Something else happened when I walked under the railroad tracks. I was tracked into the college bound students, the smart kids, based on the IQ tests all students had dutifully taken during grade school. And that changed my life.

Some people along the way would become important to me, to my life. I would never forget their names, how they looked, things they said. For three years I sat behind Larry Atlas, who made me laugh, in English classes taught by Miss Ross. How old was she? As a student of middle school age, she certainly looked very old to me. She always wore black old-lady shoes, and she always wore a navy polka-dotted dress that hung long, between her knees and ankles. I’m pretty sure she went to the hairdresser once a week to get her hair done, cut and permed. I knew this: she was not cut from the same mold as the women I’d known up to then.

I’m grateful to have been educated by the teachers I was privileged to have in the Milwaukee Public Schools in the 1950’s and 1960’s. Not one of them knew it, but they changed my life, changed the trajectory of my life.

In Miss Ross’s class, we studied the American poets. Every week, we learned about a poet, read their poems, memorized a poem, and put our learning into a book of our own, poems carefully rendered in my own hand. I filled a pocket folder with sheets of paper that included carefully printed poems and pictures I’d cut from the magazines my mother received in the mail. Sometimes, I was called upon to stand in front of the class on Friday and recite the poem we’d been assigned to memorize that week. My own love of poetry was fertilized and grew in Junior High English Class taught by Miss Ross. I can still recite most of the poems I learned over those three years. I love to recite the poems I had memorized, so many years – so many decades – ago.

I learned to love poems then. I began to write my own poems then, too. Sometimes I still find a poem in my childlike handwriting, a few words of my own fashioned into my own poem. And sometimes – often – the words of a poem I memorized under the strong and wonderful guidance of Miss Ross comes to mind.

Reciting a poem from memory is a great joy – to me. Later, after Junior High, after High School, somewhere along the way of my now long life, I memorized “Twas’ the Night Before Christmas.” Every year, I make sure to break into a recital of the entire text for someone else’s enjoyment – and for my own enjoyment.

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Jeff was the one who encouraged me, this past year, to have a collection of my own poems published. Without his kind encouragement, I expect I’d never have sent my poems out to be published. It’s an accomplishment of my life. Its genesis, I think, began on that walk under the viaduct at Fond du Lac Avenue and Burleigh Street, on the North Side of Milwaukee.

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Moments, Mary Elyn Bahlert, Balboa Press, 2026. Available on Amazon.

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“That’s the fun of it!”

Mary Elyn Bahlert

Mom liked to have fun. So did Daddy. In my Middle School years and beyond, while I was still at home, Mom would quickly clean the kitchen table after supper – we always had supper, except on holidays, when supper became dinner – and they’d get out the cards to play canasta all evening long, loudly calling to one another over the table.

And it wasn’t until many years later that I learned the other things that Mom thought were fun. Volunteering at the hospital, where she made good friends among the other volunteers. Spending a whole day with me whenever I returned from moving West to Northern California. We’d spend the day driving around Milwaukee, looking again at the old neighborhoods on the North Side where we’d both grown up. Then we’d end up at the Milwaukee Art Museum, where Mom stood silently in front of her favorite painting -“Le Pere Jacques (the Wood Gatherer)”, looking closely, as if she was seeing it for the first time. We always had at least one meal out at a restaurant of our choosing. We had our favorites.

And Mom especially liked to bake. Every winter, in Christmas season, she’d bake the cookies we liked best – meringue dots filled with chocolate, Kris Kringles, sugar cookies in all shapes, carefully decorated and sprinkled with chocolate chips or plain cookies sprinkled generously with nonpareils. She loved to try new cookie recipes, too. She had her assortment of recipes – a collection of cookbooks across many years, holiday gifts from the Gas Company and Electric Company – and marked, with comments – i.e. “a favorite, try this one!” The comments were meant for me, for the time I’d be baking my own cookies at Christmas. An event that has never happened: ask my husband.

I’d add my own comments now: “I’m not a baker, but I’definitely try this if I was a baker!”

And Mom had her own way of talking about those days of playing Canasta, about the days of baking cookies to be enjoyed by the whole family: “That’s the fun of it.”

I’m a different temperament from my mother. Gratefully, my own path has taken me through University and Seminary, following the leading of my temperament. And so, my comment holds: “I’m not a baker.” Every year, though, I bake three kinds of pies – sour cherry, pumpkin, and apple – to contribute to the holiday feast at Norman Bahlert’s and Cheryl Rouse’s long table on Thanksgiving Day. Mom would be proud of me, I’m sure.

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My poor photo of a print of “Le Pere Jacques.” This print hung above the desk in my mother’s small room at Mathilda Brown Home in Oakland, 1998-2001.

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“Am I dying?!?”

Mary Elyn Bahlert

I didn’t mean to frighten the man sitting on the hospital bed in the hospital room, when I opened the door. I was just there to do a good deed. I intended to visit with him for a few minutes, maybe say a prayer – if that’s what he wanted, and then I intended to make a mark next to the room number on the census sheet in my hand, to return it to my volunteer supervisor, a kind man with a calm manner.

All I said as I opened the door, was: “I’m a chaplain…” The man who sat on the bed was dressed in street clothes, probably waiting to be discharged that day. His back was to me. As I opened the door, I didn’t know what to expect. Sometimes the patient was in bed, actually asleep with the hospital sounds ringing loudly down the halls and into the room. Sometimes, there were doctors present, circled around the bed, speaking softly to the patient. Sometimes, a family member sat at the bedside. I could see the sheets and pillow stacked in a corner on the window seat, and I knew they’d spent the night in the room with the patient. I approached each room tentatively; an introvert, greeting strangers was not easy for me, although I had had the volunteer gig for a few years. When I entered, I always asked if they would like a prayer. Some did; some did not. In the Bay Area, it was common to receive a “no” to my offer.

Before COVID hit us all with a slam and locked down hospitals and businesses all over the country, I’d volunteered for a few years. I liked the gig, then. I was able to walk from home to Kaiser Hospital in Oakland, a nice walk of about 5 long city blocks. And I’d met a good friend, Cherynne, who was also a volunteer chaplain, a Jewish woman who read to each patient she visited from the Psalms. She and I had lunch together a few times. After COVID shut us down, she and I had met in Alameda to walk along the shore of San Francisco Bay, a nice outing for us and for her dog. I would miss her soon, when she sold her house in Alameda and moved to Bellingham, Washington, during the pandemic.

I was shocked that day, when the patient with his back to the door answered my “I’m a volunteer chaplain” with his fear-filled question: “am I dying!?” I think I answered him, meekly, quietly explaining that I visited everyone on the floor. I think I did; I’m not sure. The patient was shocked. I was shocked. A few minutes later, when I made my way to the nurse’s station, his nurse told me that I shouldn’t walk into rooms with closed doors. That’s not what my training as a volunteer had taught me. And I made sure I asked about that when I told my volunteer supervisor about the event. He listened quietly and nodded. Then he told me that it was ok to go into rooms whose patient had asked that the door be closed. Oh well.

I liked the chaplain gig well enough. I did it for a few years before COVID hit us all and forbid many things, including hospital visits by folks who were not patients. Sometimes, I’d say a prayer. Sometimes, after I’d said a prayer, the patient would continue to offer prayer. Some folks knew how to pray much longer than I did. Sometimes, I’d chat for a few moments with a patient who was sitting up in bed, and leave the room without a prayer. Sometimes, I’d leave a small Bible or a pamphlet that I’d picked up in the volunteer room. I liked the racial and ethnic diversity I encountered at Kaiser; it helped me to stay connected to the community, the community I often related to when I’d been Pastor in downtown Oakland for many years.

I liked the chaplain gig well enough, but it didn’t come easily to me. I preferred the pastor role I’d left behind at retirement. I preferred that role because I had a relationship with the person I was visiting. As their pastor, I could sit and talk for a few minutes, say a prayer, bring greetings from the folks at church. As a volunteer chaplain, I was “cold calling,” a role that did not come easily to me, a role that I ended soon after my encounter with the man whose face I never saw, but who made a memory for me.

Quan Yin, quietly praying in my yard photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert, 9/2026