“Feels like home to me
Feels like home to me
Feels like I’m all the way back where I belong…” words & music, Randy Newman
Were someone to ask me the question: “where’s home?” I would say, Milwaukee, the city where I was born, went to school, and where I lived until I was in my early thirties. I suppose in a way, Milwaukee is home to me. But another place holds my heart: Door County, Wisconsin, 200 miles north of Milwaukee, the peninsula between Lake Michigan to the East and Green Bay to the West.
My father, born in Upper Michigan, grew up in Sister Bay, a village on the Green Bay Shore of Door County, the place where his mother had been born – though several of her older siblings had been born in German speaking Prussia, now Poland. And because Dad had his roots in Door County, when he had vacation weeks from the steel factory in Milwaukee, where he had gone to find work after the Depression, and during the War Years, we traveled to Door County. And I expect my love for that place settled in me during those early years.
In my early twenties, I was assigned to Green Bay, Wisconsin, in my first career as a Claims Representative for the Social Security Administration. Brown County was a short drive north to Door County, and I grew to travel that highway north many times. Sometimes I would stay with one of my beloved aunts and uncles. Sometimes, over the years, I’d rent a small cabin – one right on the shore of Lake Michigan, north of Baileys Harbor – to spend a few quiet days alone. Every time, I promised myself I would return.
And I’ve kept that promise, even as Door County has changed over the years to become a popular, populated place of exodus for folks from all over the Midwest, in particular Chicago. I’ve kept that promise – as I moved from the Midwest to live most of my life in the Bay Area on the West Coast.
I know the “old” places and I know the roads that lead through the center of the Peninsula, with its rolling hills and orchards – luscious green in the summer – where not many tourists drive during their few days in Door County. I remember the places where members of my extended family lived, and as I drive past those places now, I can see us gathered on the lawn, talking, laughing, playing.
Because so many of the people I have loved my whole life are gone now, I use some of my time in “the Door” to drive the cemeteries, to walk again among the graves to find the names of those I loved – and love.
There is a love of place. I know that love of place. As I write this now, a gentle kind of homesickness comes to me. In my mind – and in my heart – it’s been too long since I’ve driven the roads of my beloved place. My own longing brings to mind my ancestors, those who traveled so far from their beloved homelands to come to a new country, a place where they were strangers with a strange language, a place where they could only remember, but never see again, their true home. In my life of privilege and these days of fast transport, my longing can be satisfied again. Some day – soon, I hope! – I’ll drive those roads again.
Johnson Homestead marker – Gills Rock, Wisconsin, photo by Mary Elyn Bahlert, 2021
